The Real Reason We Fail

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#1. There’s a paradox of success: mostly, what we want isn’t really what we want.

Just one example: many make cash their God. But it’s not really the money they want. It’s the feelings of prosperity, abundance and freedom from fear they’re after. If they could only see that, and fill the hole within, they would play a different game. But too many don’t, and so they fail. Why? Because they live a life that just isn’t theirs.

My humble suggestion: dig deep and ask yourself, is what you think you want truly the thing you want or is it a deeper feeling you’re really after?

#2. Disappointment is better than regret.

I believe that the heartbreak of regret is always 100x bigger than the pain of trying and failing. So much smarter–as you lead and grow–to have the guts to go for epic…who cares if you fail? That just makes your life richer, more colorful and much cooler.

I get society doesn’t think like this. But you wouldn’t be following my work and be with me on this ride if you were building your life around what society thinks.

…Personally, I’d rather live FULL-ON–and play full out–versus joining the timid souls who never risk and arrive at their ends with hearts full of regret.

#3. Fear offers a shot at fearlessness.

The vast majority of human beings run from fear. An opportunity to dare is resisted. A chance to stand in the fire is denied. But here’s the powerful idea: each of the situations that frighten you are–in truth–special gifts for bravery training. The more you get knocked down by fear and then rise above it, the more fearless you become.

#4. Success is less about luck and more about character.

Look, there may be some luck in it all. I just happened to be in the right bookstore at the right time when the then-president of HarperCollins, Ed Carson, saw my self-published version of The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari and gave me the break that changed my life. Maybe it was pure luck. Not sure. Forever grateful though.

But here’s what life has taught me so far: a strong character always beats waiting for luck to visit…

–hard work profoundly makes a difference

–gritty persistence vastly raises your chances

–optimism amid adversity grows your results

–treating people with respect yields blessings

#5. Your daily habits matter more than your natural talents.

What made Musk and Edison and Beckham and Mandela were more their habits than their talent. The world is full of misused genius…

Take care of your days and a legendary life will take care of itself. What makes the best performers the best, are really their routines. And if you’ve followed my work for a while, you know some of the ones I teach. Like The 20/20/20 Formula, The 90 Minute Rule, The Daily 5 and, of course, The 5 am Club.

Practice them until they become your default. Then mastery will become your normal.

#6. Be More Loving.

Yes, my work is with leaders. The FORTUNE 500. And elite entrepreneurs. And top producers. And game-changers. And titans…

But I have zero issue reminding you to be more loving to every person you’ll meet today. Love is the glue that keeps us together. It inspires, uplifts and affirms the value of each human being walking the planet today.

We live in a world where so many of us are putting up walls around ourselves. I was in a coffee shop yesterday. People had headphones on their ears and eyes riveted on computer screens. Not much conversation. Very little connection. What has happened?

When you show love to others, you not only remind them of their truest nature. You access that greater part of yourself. It’s there for you this moment. Longing for you to honour it.

Reproduced with kind permission from Robin Sharma

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