|It’s a phrase we hear often. But I don’t think it really exists. At least not in the way most “experts” talk about it.I, like most people, have never been able to balance the scales of work/life on a day-to-day basis. Rather, I’ve come to realize that the dance between work and life is more about rhythm than balance. There is a rhythm to life and there is a season for everything. For me, there is a time to work hard and a time to rest. There is a time to be on the road and a time to be at home with my family. My wife and I look at our year as whole and we plan our schedule according to the seasons of our life knowing I’ll be slammed in August, September and October and slower in December and July.
We plan for when I’ll be working and when I’ll be more engaged with the family.
“ The Master in the art of living makes little distinction between his work and his play, his labour and his leisure, his mind and his body, his education and his recreation, his love and his religion. He hardly knows which is which.
He simply pursues his vision of excellence in whatever he does,
leaving others to decide whether he is working or playing.
To him he is always doing both”.
Zen Buddhist Text
You can do the same.
You may have a different rhythm and your seasons may be shorter or longer than mine but you can look at your life on a weekly, monthly, and yearly basis and schedule times to work hard, recharge, renew, play, and engage with your family/friends/significant other.
However, regardless of your rhythm and work schedule I want to encourage you to fully commit to your seasons.
People tell me all the time that they feel guilty that they are not at home with their family when they are at work. And to make matters worse they also feel guilty that they are not working when they are at home.
A double dose of guilt is a recipe for misery.